I totally understand you. And, you know what? I feel like that last couple of months. I am studying something that I don't want, and sometimes I feel like I should stick to that and sometimes I feel like I should follow what I am really passionate about.

But, a few days ago, I decided that I am gonna try next year to get onto Uni and study what I want. And, I think you should that too. Be rebelious, do anything you wanna do, because if you don't you gonna ask yourself one day what could have been. Just do it.

xoxo

Hey Alyssa,

I think if your heart is telling you to take the courage to do something like move to London for a year then I think just go for it. If it doesn't work out then you can always go home and you have family and friends but if it did work out then it could open a whole new life for you here. The thing is you never know until you try!

Take Kim for example - she took the courage to join a cruise ship, move to New York and then went to LA all on her own but had she never done that then her life would never have taken the path it has. It's funny as Linsey and I are also discussing a move just now and both agree that we both need to be pushed out our comfort zone. I feel since leaving uni and buying a house near my parents (it too was the 'safe' option)  I feel a bit frustrated and like I want something different. Watch this space!

You only live once Alyssa so I say go for it! You'll have plently of Brits here dying to be friends with you (Linsey and I for starters!). Hope that helps :) xxx

Firstly you are definitely not alone! I think more people have these thoughts than don’t.  When you are a kid you just think that one day what you want to do will just come to you in a flash, as you get older you realise it’s not like that – how many 30/ 40/ 50 yr olds still don’t really know what they want to do?

Being a little older and having been to uni and now working myself, my advice would be to definitely go to London for a yr once you finish your degree – you only regret the opportunities you don’t take. Yes there would be times when you get home sick, but I guarantee that once you are home, you will be left with so much invaluable experience and memories.  When I have done things I didn’t feel comfortable with, I found putting a time scale on it helped, so for example, I would say OK im here now, but in X weeks/ months it will be over and I will be home, and do I want to look back and think I didn’t make the most of the opportunity? This certainly helped me put things into perspective when I felt down, and helped push me on to make the most of the situation I was in and things would always improve anyway. But you never know you might love every second and end up staying! Lol. You just don’t know unless you try, so if there is an inkling inside you I would say go for it whole heartedly!  Afterall, you will still have the degree, once you have that under your belt no-one can take it away from you, so you can always go into writing/ journalism at a later date, but it would be a shame not to complete the degree as it is obvious you are still interested in that field and have already invested so much time, money and effort to let it go to waste...

That’s just my opinion though, obviously it’s up to you what feels right, the most important thing is that you are happy and enjoy life.  Let us know how you get on!

PS. See you in July! J x

Hey, Lys! I'm definitely sure that your future holds nothing but love, light, and tons of happiness for you! Dreams are meant to come true, and I really hope that you realize those dreams!

I can understand how ya feel, with being stuck doing something your not sure is what you really want. I feel like im stuck in my job and theres no way out. For most of my life all i have wanted to do is join the military and become a Sharpshooter (or become a toy tester haha hows that for a job?) but somehow i dont think im ever gonna get there. We are both still young and have our whole lives ahead of us, but how will we spend our time? Going after our dream or sitting by and let the world tell us how to live?

As for doing something different and moving to London, i say why not? I wouldnt mind just getting out of Aus for a while and experiencing life outside our own. Although you will be further away from me lol my support for you will be stronger than ever because you are so far away. If you want to become a Journalist then go for it 110%. What do you have to lose if you dont make it?  I can already see just by reading your blogs that your an amazing and passionate writer, it would be a shame to waste such a talent. As Xtina said theres plenty of BM Family over that way so help is never too far away.

Are you going to BM party next year? :D xoxo

P.S Follow you heart and remember, its your dream, only you can turn it into a reality! Love you!!

I totally understand the position you are in right now, even though I haven’t started my career yet, but the pressure it's definitely on, I like journalism too, and communication but I don’t now if I’m passionate about it, I guess you just feel it, don’t rush thing, and if you want to experience new things go ahead and do so, life is short and nothing lasts forever, so do what your heart tells you, just follow your heart! It would tell you what path to take, and I know it’s hard sometimes but take a minute and figure out not what people want or what is the best thing to do, but what do YOU want to do and what makes you feel passionate!

Good luck! 

Alyssa! you and i are mind readers or something lol. last night i was about to write a blog about our future, our passion. but i didn't yet. anyways, i think if you want to move to london, then why not!? i mean, there are so many members of BM over there and i'm sure you won't find it too hard to get used to it, plus you speak english lol...apart from the fact that yes you'll get homesick and stuff. Until today, 2 years later after having left Mauritius, i still get homesick at times. you'll miss your family and environment. UK's environment is a drastic change from tropical australia! but yea, i don't want to discourage you or anything. on the contrary, it'd be awesome if you could go to UK, study there, work etc. It would definitely be a GREAT experience.

I'm like you at the moment. I'm doing sciences and french. it's only my 1st year and i'm very unsatisfied about what i'm doing. i failed 2 important courses and on the other hand, i'm kinda "acing" my french course (not to say that i'm showing off) but i love french more than anything else. The only thing is that i've always seen myself in sciences.my parents have always seen my in sciences, becoming a doctor or anything in medicine. I've been thinking a lot lately. i do have the choice of switching from Sciences to Arts since right now, i'm part of both arts and sciences. but what if it's not the right choice? anyways....i think i should stop talking about myself and my issues lol.

My advice would be: go experience new things if you feel ready! If you're not ready, then you might have regrets or feel bad about your choice. good luck :)

My love, you know that struggling with your future plans is nothing but normal. We're of the same age and I also got the same problem. I thought I knew what I wanted to do, and I was very sure about that, until my plans got crossed and led me right back to where I started, which left me without any glimpse of hope. Everyone knows this moments when you wonder what to do, cause everything seems so ridiculously pointless and just not right for you.
You have to figure out what you're good at, though I know it's one of the toughest parts of everyone's journey. There are people who don't know what their qualities and talents are, but then again there are people who already know it but aren't able to become what they want. I belong to the latter category. I know that I'm good at drawing, writing and helping people with giving advice etc. But I won't be able to make it in either any creative business or one that has to do with psychology. It's hard because of the German school system.. I'll explain it a little bit, so you see what I mean: I graduated in year 12, which allows you to go to some universities and study certain things. Year 13 is the highest degree you can have, which allows you to study everything you want, at every uni (of course, depending on the grades you got). So, I'm only allowed to study certain things, but those are things that I'm not interested in at all (besides, my grades weren't very good in my final year). To study psychology (which would take like 5 or 6 years anyway) I need the so-called A-Level, which admits you to this study course. And, sadly, it's the same with journalism. So, to make a long story short: I'm not able to do what I genuinely want, so I have to choose something that I'm still good at and something that would still be fun for me. I figured that writing and drawing is awesome to just let your creativity out and let everything you feel pour onto a piece of paper – but in the end I don't think it would fulfil my life the way something social would do. That's why I chose to train as a nurse (which includes the departments of internal medicine, geriatrics, neurology, gynaecology, paediatrics, surgery and psychiatry). I think that this could really be my own little purpose – helping people that way, instead of giving advice in a psychological way.
Maybe you have to do something similar: You have to sit down and remember the moments that genuinely made you happy, moments that your heart was filled with joy and your mouth formed into a smile. Believe me, your mind will roam lots of times and you may think that now you've found what you really want to do, but in the end you'll always figure that it was not the right choice. Take your time, otherwise you'll make a decision that you're not happy with just because you pressurised yourself too much and you were much too hard on yourself.
You said the exact same thing that I always said to myself and the people around me. The reason why I went to England was that everything was too safe and I was too accustomed to my surroundings and also, way too attached to the people around me, especially my family. Take the risk, if it's really what you want (which I assume). It will definitely be hard, but it will challenge you in a way that you've never known before, this I can promise you. You will learn and grow with each day, though you'll also cry and fall on some days. But in the end it's an experience that you'll never forget in your entire life, and especially not the lessons that you learned outta that journey.

I do believe that everyone's future is predetermined. There's a desire inside of every person's heart, which is like a seed. It takes time for it to grow and ripen, but one day it will fill your heart out to the fullest and you'll know what your purpose is. Some seeds grow slower than others and some bloom like flowers very early already. Like I said: Take the necessary risks in order to find the true Alyssa inside of you, cause ultimately there's no way around it. Be yourself, do whatever makes your heart dance and then it will come to you virtually all by itself. All my love!! :) xoxo

mm we had a convo about the journalist thing sometime ago..

i think that.. u are still young..and maybe u should try to make ""crazy things"" i mean.. ur career is there.. ur a good writer, and u wont forget that.. so if u think that u need a bit of time for u.. if u need to feel the freedom.. the adventure.. just do it

if u go to england..maybe i´ll see ya there!! so we can go clubbing and shopping!! (ok, not shopping, i´m not a "shopping girly girl"" haha but yes clubbing! ´

nah, really... enjoy the life and listen to ur heart. dont be scared of anything, cause believe me..life is really long, and u will fall down and make 1000000 mistakes, but u are really smart and brave to do whatever u want.

love ya so so my , my aussie stunning blondie . xDD muaaaaaaah