Thank you for sharing this with us. I am so proud of you. xoxo

thanks for writing this blog..thats a tough situation there Emily.  i think that there wil be significant events in our lives both positive and negatives that will be embedded into our head for quite sometimes and they could be our learning curves.  for the question of 'how to forget'...well for myself, if i cant forget it then accept it.  time is the essence of being able to accept the event that occured in your life, acknowledging it and being alright with it.   hope that makes sense and take care :) xo

There will always be things that you'll never be able to forget, you'll remember certain things for the rest of your life, no matter if you actually want it or not. Making mistakes is essential, since it's the most honest and most genuine way to learn the lessons that you simply need to learn. It doesn't matter if it was a mistake or just a bad happening that regularly comes back to your mind and that makes it hard for you to get over it - you gotta learn to deal with it. I've heard people telling me the very same thing over and over again cause I just couldn't get over the divorce of my parents when I was 13, and I consistently got reminded of it when we went to our dad's house or whenever my mum would come home from work very late since she had to work more for us all to get through. I was always incredulous toward what people told me, like to get over it and to forgive my parents for what they did - I somehow turned all my anger on my dad, kinda for leaving us alone and for accepting the situation for what it was, and especially for marrying again, even though it was my mum who made that decision. To make a long story short: Now, after almost exactly six years, I've learned to forgive them in every way possible. The relationship to my dad has improved incredibly much and we're finally able to talk to each other without ending up in an argument after two minutes. What I want to say is that, even though it might seem ridiculous and impossible for you to ever get over a happening from your past that seems to haunt you, I'm telling you that it really is possible. I don't know what it is that you were talking about in particular, but everything that happened in your past has led you to where you are at the moment, and everything you do now will lead you to the place where you're supposed to be. Keep believing that there's a purpose to everything and that the happening from your past, that is still haunting you, is coming back to your mind for a reason. If you learn how to use the bad happenings from your past as positive lessons for your future then you can live on without being haunted by them :) All my love to you!! xoxo

Thanks for sharing this Emily. Without bad memories, how can we tell if what we are now doing is the right thing? With nothing to compare it to, how can we differ good from bad? Bad memories are a pain, but sometimes they are necessary to guide us in the path of redemption. They are a constant reminder that we are human and mistakes will happen in our life. As Nat said, its what you make of these memories that will define you. Dont let these memories hold you back, as the saying goes "Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery, Today is a gift, thats why its called the Present"

I know you'll find the strength to move on from whatever has happened, whether it be this week or in a few years, just remember you have a family here to fall back onto if you need us!

Love ya xoxo

Don't forget your past. Things that touched our lives so deeply can't by any means be forgotten no matter how hard we try.  We have a brain to remember things, but a soul to forgive. I know what you've been through and i can imagine how hard it was and how hard it can still be, and how it affects your life.

I know it's really hard to forgive someone who hurt you. Forgiveness is hard to do. But don't forget that "forgiveness can't change the past but enlarges the future." This might sound contradicting i know. But i want you to think about the bright things in life. I want you to see the people who love you for who you are. I want you to know that you're loved and you will be loved for who you are deep inside. You shine bright! i already told you that you're beautiful both inside and out. And there will be someone out there, who will see how wonderful you are. Those who can't see it are just missing out. Be patient. you will find what you're looking for and that light will be relit again. Write your anger down! Go punch your pillow if you want! But don't keep those negative feelings inside, they'll only worsen the situation.

Remember that life is too short to waste our time on hating others. in this case, i'd say "life is too short to waste your time thinking about what brings you down."

I second what Nat said above, "i believe you have the strength to search for the positives".

you know where to find me when you need someone to talk to. I'll be there!

"For every beauty, there is an eye somewhere to see it. For every truth, there is an ear somewhere to hear it. For every love, there is a heart somewhere to receive it." - Anonymous.

Have trust and faith. I love you emily!

Theres no doubt memories that have made a huge impact on your life arent easily forgotten and may stay with you forever, but its the way that you deal with those memories that matters. it takes a lot of work trying to see the positives in what seems like a really shit situation but theres always a silver lining, a lesson to be learnt and an oppertunity to grow. I dont know what you have been through Emily but all i know is your an amazing woman and i believe that you have the strength to search for the positives in your situation. If you ever need to talk im always here to listen, i may be young and act like a dopey kid sometimes but im always willing to lend a hand :) much love xox