"...do to others what you would have them do to you." -- Matthew 7:12.

Written by Sandra on January 4, 2012

You know, life can be funny sometimes. In one moment it’s painfully ironic and then in the next you just can’t stop reality from sneaking up behind you and taking you by surprise. But, to be honest, that’s exactly what I love so much about the whole ride. You never quite know what’s waiting for you around the corner. You can’t really make plans that lie too far ahead, cause Fate will autocratically laugh in your face foiling it all, leaving you to start over again.

But all that isn’t even a bad thing which you should get irritated by. Rather appreciate it, cause you might not always get what you’ve wanted, but you surely will always get right what you need. So when you’re on an assumed right path and one day everything gets shattered by that furtive thing called Fate, be happy, cause it prevented you from going any further and from losing more energy. Instead you can now focus on a new path that will hopefully be the right one this time.

What you have to understand is that whatever happens in your life, may it be something that people have decided to call “bad” or something “good”, you’re responsible for it. Well, this might only be my belief, but I’d like to share it with everyone who’s reading this: So many people live their lives in misery, day after day, even though they’d like to be what they consider to be happy (for everyone’s got their own interpretation and understanding of that disyllabic word). But why can’t those people find their happiness? Why can’t they just step out of the darkness and walk straight into the light? It’s because of their habits. Everyone’s got their own ones, good and bad ones. And each of them has a certain way of manifesting in your life. There are some bad habits that already start in the morning, right after the alarm clock has woken us up. We get grumpy, we throw that beeping device against a wall and begrudgingly get ready for work or school. See, the mindset we have in the morning can determine the entire course of the day. It would neither hurt to smile at yourself in the mirror, even if you look like a mess after you haven’t gotten much sleep during the night, nor to politely wish others a good morning when you pass them by. Didn’t the bible already say “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you”?

Here’s what I believe in: If you find it hard to change your mindset just like that, then go out there and give away one gift every day. For a month or so. It doesn’t have to be a material gift (though it can), it can be a smile, a hug, a compliment or whatever you can think of. This is different than just casually hugging someone, for example, when you see them (cause that’s most likely already become a habit). When you decide to give away a gift every day for thirty days, then the energy behind every gift is way higher and there’s a lot more love involved. You give that gift without expecting a Thank You in return, cause it was a present from you to that person and it came from the heart. Doing that you’ll see how life isn’t as bad as you’ve always made yourself believe it was. Good things will come your way without you even having to ask for them. I’ve made that experience myself. I suddenly had money when I thought I didn’t, I got along with people who would usually not even deign to look at me, and every day in general has gotten filled with a lot more loveliness and ease.