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family story...
Written by Stef on August 25, 2009
To begin with this blog I wanted to add that Im not much of a writer (like some you here on BM are) but I felt like posting this anyway…
When I was little and starting to talk more I was so confused with this. Why cant I call my grandma „grandma“ instead of calling her with her first name? I was always wondering why but never got a real reply … only the answer „that I was too young to understand it“ And in some parts it was definetely true. One evening when I was older I asked my parents before going to bed why I have to use her prename all the time and they finally gave me the answer I was always waiting for (different from the „you’re too young“.
It was that night they told me that the woman who I was always referring to as my grandma (without saying it tho) wasnt really m grandma but the second wife of my grandpa.
It was that night I told myself that no matter if shes not „biologically“ my grandma I will always see her as my real grandma.
It was only a matter of time until I wanted to know who my real grandma is. But this topic always seemed as an unspoken one. No one ever talked about it or told me more about it. Every time I tried to talk about it the only answers I got were „we’ll talk about this later“ (what never happened) or „we’ll explain it when youre older“. I was def sick of hearing this all the time.
When I was about 10 I actually got to meet my grandma. The reason why…I dont know it Im still wondering about that til today. From then on I got to meet her regulary every year when we went to visit my family in austria. But not because my dad wants to see her just because I always tell them before we come here that I want to see her. I actually wonder if I would get to see her if I wouldnt say it. …
I wish I would have that kind of bond with my grandma that I actually have with my other grandma or the 2nd wife of my grandad…but I doubt thats going to happen cause of the things my whole family holds against her (or against what has happened).
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Sandra said on August 25, 2009:
Ich weiß genau wie es dir geht. Einer meiner Opas (väterlicherseits) ist auch nicht mein biologischer Opa, sondern der zweite Mann meiner Oma. Ich habe ihn allerdings schon immer 'Opa' genannt, da mir nie jemand verboten hat ihn so zu nennen oder mir auch niemand gesagt hat, dass er nicht mein richtiger Opa ist. Ich habe das erst vor ein paar Jahren per Zufall herausgefunden, da mein Vater es vor jemand anderem erwähnt hat. Ich habe aber trotzdem nie aufgehört ihn 'Opa' zu nennen, und ich werde auch nicht aufhören, denn für mich ist er mein Opa! :)
Ih finde es toll, dass du den Kontakt zu deiner Oma aufgenommen hast und dich mit ihr triffst. Es muss ihr bestimmt auch schwer gefallen sein ihre Enkelin nicht mehr zu sehen. xoxo :)
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Stef
Stef is a girl that lives in Germany. She joined Dipdive on January 16, 2009. The last time she logged in was on February 4, 2012.
on Feb 4, 2012 from Twitter (retweeted from xTeamWyattx)
Your story was really interesting, it's annoying when you are young and you ask a question that always gets brushed aside. That must have been a shock when you first found out but I admire how you handled it, and it didn; change how you felt about your grandma that you had known your whole life, I;m sure some people would not have been so mature. I believe family is the most precious gift we have and I'm sure your grandma that you only recently met is so happy you want to be in contact and see her. I hope things continue to go well and you get to see her more often! Thanks for sharing this. Much love xxx