"We"

Written by cusulli on February 10, 2009

We

All of us want to feel loved; acceptance from society is of utmost important to some of us. We love that uplifting compliment from someone that gets rid of those Monday blues to find that at the end of the day, someone does recognise us. Our ‘support network’ (friends and family) help us along the thick and thin, its people we feel comfortable with - people that take the time to listen and give us advice. We share similarities with them, and maybe every so often we get annoyed by our differences. Though, it’s because we’re unique - a solitary voice that wants to be understood, we are programmed to communicate, our views matter, and they make more sense than the drivel we hear, so people ought to know about them.

We judge others and are judged ourselves day in and day out, our actions, what we say, what we do, how we look. We feel inspired. We feel distanced. We notice vices and we notice traits. We love to generalise and place people under categories, it makes understanding them and their actions a whole lotta easier.

We aren’t always conscious of others, their role and their effort; we stay prejudiced and stubborn in our own opinion. We can become self centred and fail to see what happens around us. Though there are times we can appear to be cold, but it’s because we really don’t know what to say.

We try to play a persona that fits well in our head, covering that fragility inside (though vulnerability is obviously “non-existent” as far as any one is concerned). Self pride is paramount to success, and any hint of patronisation is met with a (thought or said) “Who do you think you are?”

It pleases us most when our efforts are recognised, though the humble among us keep on going even if they aren’t. Some of us can’t stand failure and don’t know how to deal with it, our self doubt grows and we fail to see that recognising and dealing with failure is nothing less than being on the path to success. We often find ourselves envying others, their success, though when we ourselves achieve something we’ll make sure everyone acknowledges it (and shove our past wrongdoings under the carpet).

Life goes on and many of our ambitions aren’t realised because we see far too many barriers and defeat appears to be inevitable - but then we don’t really care, do we? The future’s still bright, though our self reassurance crumbles each time we hit that wall.

We’re used to facing negativity (we hear the ‘can’ts’, ‘couldn’ts’, and ‘nos’) and uncertainty (the overused ‘I don’t knows’) that we compromise our own dreams and think that they might just be fairytales. We stress, we worry and insecurity gets the better of us the minute life takes a turn, we find ourselves losing control over things and life seems to be slipping through our fingers. So, don’t take us out of our comfort zone, we don’t want to experiment, the unknown scares us and if it is all too confusing, we dismiss it.

There are times when we feel detached from the rest of the world and we enter a state where we forget everything, work, relationships, etc. Life turns cold and blue and we resort to songs, poems or even food so we can hide away from the truth, yet we hide our own inner truths and search for answers, when the really lie within us.

To what can only be described as a ‘void’ exists in all of us, a space or need to be filled. We busy ourselves with other things but the path often leads only to materialism and we crave for that social acceptance and reassurance to know ‘hey, I do fit in’. Countless nights pass away trying to figure out what this world really is.

Disassociate yourselves from what is wrong and uphold and challenge your beliefs. Listen to others evaluate your life and try to look at things from another perspective so that you find independence in having a belief that is so strong that mass social acceptance seems trivial.

Don’t wait for the change in society, be the change.