"Who you are is good enough if you would only be it openly."

Written by sarahlouxx on May 29, 2011

"Who you are is good enough if you would only be it openly."

I have chosen to write this as I have heard many sad stories recently regarding teens committing suicide and even adults suffering because they’re to scared to be who they really are!

Gay, lesbian, black, white, tall, short, the list goes on but this topic is about the first two (gay, lesbian and even bi sexual)

I remember when I knew that I had feelings for the same sex, how confused and very scared I was, but most importantly how I feared I would be rejected. I lived my life trying to hide who I was, maybe secretly wanting to ignore who I was - sad but true.

I always had the freedom I just never had the courage to live the life that came with that freedom. I was so afraid of being rejected and it was all that fear that lead me through all the experiences I needed to get where I am today.

Today I am free to explore who I am without fear of being rejected , it wasn’t easy getting to this point but true happiness is never easy.

In order to understand true happiness you must understand the essence of pain- and the best way to understand something is to experience it. So, through out my life I was given several experiences to help bring me to the very point I am at now.

Coming out is never easy, and how we tend to think others will react is always made to seem a lot worse than what it is. But what breaks my heart the most is that people spend years, some their whole life hiding the truth, only left with regret. I have heard so many sad stories, BUT I think the one that got to me the most was what my friend told me a few years ago. She is in her late 40’s now, she came out when she was very young I believe 14 she got mixed reactions, some good some bad but that never stopped her from being her true self. She spent her teenage years very close to the girl, they spent most of their time together, her friend knew about her sexual prefence and it didn’t bother her one bit, to not confuse you lets call one sophie (she is the one who was out) and rosy (she was her best straight friend)

Sophie grew very fond of rosy and secretly wanted more than a friendship from her, but rosy being straight couldn’t give her that….. To cut a long story short 20 years later rosy split from her husband and finally found the courage to be who she always was but to afraid to be.

They spent a year together, very happy till one day rosy got some sad news, she didn’t have long left to live… she had cancer. The kind that was to late to treat, months later she died, before she died she said her biggest regret was that she wasted all them years living her life just to please others. Im sure she was pleased she spent her last year with the love of her life, I guess there is a lot to say behind this story but its just a example.

I guess what I am trying to say is……

Its true that our minds can be our worst enemy espically when we forget that we have the power to change our own perception. It’s okay for us to be a little messed up when we come out of the closet, because it is our first step at truly knowing ourselves. It’s out first step towards truth. It is the first step to understanding true happiness and experiencing self love.I've learned that everyone has problems in life - being bi is just another one of life's challenges. It's worse than some things, but better than others. I feel no regrets for anything that has happened in my life so far. I have finally learned to love myself. Coming out hasn't made my life carefree. I feel that I've made progress on my own personal path of self-acceptance and personal understanding. To finally end, I like to say I don't get angry or upset at people when they say awful things about the gay/bi lifestyle, in fact, I feel bad for them. They are the one that have to live their life with hatred in them, because all it does is eat you up inside. I can honestly say that coming out to family and everyone around me I love was the best thing I ever done. It was taking to much out of me, and I needed a peace of mind. Even if at least one person don't except me, it's okay because I'm living my life for me not for that person. Nothing feels better than honesty with yourself. Yes you do loose some people in your life, but why would you want to keep those who don't or won't accept and respect you for who you are. It's such a remarkable feeling of not having this secret eating at my mind any longer

P.s I am sorry if this is all over the place but its something I feel so strongly for that I get a bit over powered as it comes out.

In truth we can let go of anger, live without worry, live in gratitude, and love others and ourselves unconditionally. Life is an amazing adventure and is as full as the joy we bring into it. Some say fear gives us strength. Letting go of that fear set us free. Freedom opens the doors to a world filled with love. Love is more powerful than fear.... 

According to Martha Washington, “the greater part of one’s happiness and misery depends on one’s dispositions and not one circumstances

You're not alone! Life is a precious gift: Don't let it pass you by in loneliness,isolation,and self-hatred